I love this quote. I’ve always been told that I am stubborn as though it is a negative thing, but this Josh Shipp quote puts a positive light on that stubbornness. For entrepreneurs especially, stubbornness is necessary. Well, most of the time.
Stubbornness paid off when I insisted I was moving from the midwest to Boston after college, despite naysayers telling me I’d be a “little fish in a big pond.” Stubbornness paid off when I insisted there was a better way to run a marketing agency with senior talent and everyone said I didn’t have enough experience to make it happen (my agency is turning 21 this year, so…!). Stubbornness paid off when I fought a legal battle and insisted on taking it all the way to court because I knew in my heart that I was right. (I won, twice.) Stubbornness is paying off as I listen to my heart and my body to train again, instead of the doctor who told me I wouldn’t likely run another marathon after breaking my foot in three places last summer (three months into training for the Chicago Marathon – heartbreaking!).
Using stubbornness as a way to get where you need to be is a good thing. It takes chutzpa to get what you want in this world. No one is here to do you any favors. Without a stubborn will to make new things happen, we would never see change. Change and growth are what makes the world great. We need stubborn people.
Certainly, we have to know when to not be stubborn – like when the new startup isn’t working and it’s time to pack it up, when Mom and Dad tell us they’ve had enough of our ‘tude, or when we’re fighting with our spouse over something really not worth fighting over and we know we just want to be right. You learn to recognize when stubbornness will get you into more trouble than it’s worth. If it isn’t helping you persevere to something more positive, let it go.
Happy Monday – go forth and persevere, my stubborn friends!
We spend so much of our lives waiting:
- We wait to grow up
- We wait to graduate from college
- We wait for the bus, train, plane
- We wait to order food or get a seat at a restaurant
- We wait on hold
- We wait in lines for events, auditions, jobs
Some of these waits are unavoidable. But too often, we wait until life is “ideal” enough to do things – to get married or start a family, to quit our job and start that entrepreneurial journey we dream of, to buy something special.
Sometimes, you just have to go for it. It may never feel right until after you do! Sometimes, as the saying in my kitchen goes, you just have to “Enjoy life, this is not a dress rehearsal.”
You have to stop waiting. You have to jump. You have to stop staring down, wondering – you’ll only get the answer when you take the leap.
So, what are you waiting for? It’s Monday. This week, don’t wait. Do something daring and go for it.
Photo by Andy Spearing; via Flickr Creative Commons
Last week I wrote this post for Forbes, asking 13 successful women what one attribute helped get them where they are today. Their answers vary, and I encourage you to read through them for inspiration. I didn’t include my answer – it felt a little too unwarranted for the venue – but since many folks have asked me about my one attribute, I thought I’d share it here.
The one trait that has helped me get to where I am today (other attributes have helped me stay) is ignoring the rules. I don’t always ignore all the rules but like my religion, I use them more as a guideline. Often, I purposely won’t look up how something is typically accomplished, because I don’t want to be restricted by the doubts, expectations or opinions that other people’s experiences can put in my mind. If I had followed some of life’s more obvious rules, I wouldn’t have moved to Boston, I wouldn’t have started my own companies and I wouldn’t have worked with some of the really great people I have the privilege of calling colleagues. Sometimes people will say to me, for example, “You can’t ask that,” or “You contacted who?!” – because their own fears of failure, or ego, would have held them back from doing so. Sometimes, expectation is a killer of creation.
What’s one attribute that’s helped you achieve success? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.