Your spouse had an affair. Your boss stole your idea as her own. Your teacher gave you a failing grade. Guess what – it’s not her fault. Something else went wrong – take ownership for your part in any outcome, whether it was not heeding the signs, not speaking up, not studying or simply making the wrong choice. The sooner you start recognizing your role in outcomes, the sooner you start seeing better ones.
You can spend your life dwelling and wishing they hadn’t, or dealing with your emotions, moving on and letting go to find happiness again.
I went to see “Gone Baby Gone” last night. It was a great movie, although incredibly hard to watch – gut-wrenching. Casey Affleck was amazing and his brother Ben did a damn good job of directing, in my opinion.
I won’t talk too much about the movie so I don’t give it away, but ultimately it boils down to knowing yourself, being strong and standing up for what you believe in – which at first glance may seem obvious, but when you take a deeper view, isn’t as easy as you may have anticipated.
Sometimes what you believe in is challenged with unexpected curve balls. This movie demonstrates that. While not as serious as the content of the film, my life this week called into question a bit of what I believe in. I had to decide if I should stand up and support an employee and my industry in the face of someone I disagreed with who is very influential. I could have taken one of several “easy” routes – I could have ignored the situation, I could have not responded at all, I could have responded anonymously. I chose ultimately to do none of those things.
I chose to stand up, clearly and loudly, for what I believe in. I spoke my opinion in a public forum when many others would not. Don’t get me wrong – it could come back to bite me in the ass. It could cost me more than I anticipated. But in the end – I choose to not cower, I choose to not stand down and stay quiet. Great leaders in history didn’t become that way by keeping their mouth shut.
This may seem cryptic to some, but those who know my business will know exactly what I’m talking about. I refuse to link to the situation or give Mr. A any additional attention. But I also refuse to stay quiet, be abused or go quietly.