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Changes to Change Your Life

“Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning.”

As I grow older, I’m constantly on the lookout for ways to improve my life. I get the “itch” to do something drastic and different. But maybe it’s about changing more of the little things rather than just one big thing.

This is undoubtedly one of the most inspiring posts I’ve read this year. I’m going to strive to follow the advice here, (although I already do a few of them). Check it out and let me know the changes you see if you take these on! I’ll be sure to share my experiences as well.

50 Ways Happier, Healthier, And More Successful People Live On Their Own Terms

Worth The Wait

Remember Waiting?

All the buzz around Snapchat and its decline of Facebook’s $3 billion acquisition offer has caused quite a stir. But I’m not here to offer another analysis on whether it was a smart move or not. No, there are plenty of those articles written by people much smarter than I. Rather, I’m looking at the concept of the app and the demographics of the audience gobbling it up. I was reminded that Snapchat’s young Millennial users have “never known life without the Internet,” and thus, rarely a life with wait time. Hence the reason Snapchat – with text and photo messages that disappear in a few seconds – is so popular with this crowd. Everything is here, now. Blink – and you miss it.

I’m getting old, I know this. Because all of this news made me think about what a valuable lesson (multiple lessons, really) it was for me as a teen to learn to wait. Waiting is hard. And that’s what makes it so good.

Unlike today’s instant gratification, give-it-to-me now generation, my generation had to wait.

We waited for remote control TVs (my brother used to torture me if I didn’t get up and turn that dial for him).  We waited for real home cooked meals, prepared by parents who we had to wait for to arrive home from work (in the days when people didn’t work 24/7), and we had to wait for everyone to sit down at the table before we could eat. We ate together and everyone waited – and talked – for everyone else to be finished before asking to be excused.

We had to wait to use the phone. And when we finally got our turn, we had to wait for it to dial as it went around…..and around…. and around…  seven whole times before a connection was made!

We had to wait for our MTV. But it was totally worth it.

We had to wait for Casey Kasem to go through 40 whole songs to tell us every week what the Top song was. And we had to wait – two fingers on each the “record” button and the “play” button – for our favorite songs to be played so we could make a crude copy for home listening. On our boom boxes. Otherwise, we’d be waiting forever for the tapes (not the gift wrapping kind) to arrive in our local record store. Yes, I said record store. They were cool.

We had to wait to go shopping. At a store. For me, living in Wyoming as a teen, the closest mall was three hours away! No online shopping – which was probably a good thing for my folks.

We had to wait for mail. The kind that arrives in a mailbox on the street and has letters from people who wrote them. On paper. With ink.

We had to wait for photos. Yes, seriously. We took them, having no idea what they looked like and then we had to go drop them off at a store and wait, like, a whole week to get them developed. They were on this thing called film. And when we finally got them back, we couldn’t crop and edit and get rid of our red eye. Tragic.

We had to wait for movies. To arrive in theaters. Where we had to wait in line to buy tickets!

We had to wait for the coolest, latest books and posters, which we ordered through Scholastic school fundraising. And the day your shipment arrived in class it was so awesome! Because we had been waiting!

And I remember the biggest “waiting” lesson of all that my parents taught me. To not rush everything – to enjoy the wait. Because half the fun is in the anticipation. Before you know it, it’s over.

With instant access, gratification, delivery, results – what do today’s kids wait for? Do they know the feeling of anticipation, patience and reward? And if not, how will it affect their adulthood? Do they appreciate what they have because they get everything they want on demand?

I know I struggle with this in raising my children. They have little patience and short attention spans. It amazes me sometimes how they are constantly thinking of what’s next instead of enjoying what’s happening now – because they don’t want to wait even one minute for something they’re in the middle of.

Waiting is good. Does anyone else remember this feeling?

37 of #365LifeLessons – Finding Your Passion

Finding your passion can be, believe it or not, hard work (especially for work). Start with making a list of things you enjoy & things that make you happy. And remember, these things can evolve over time. It’s better to make a conservative living doing something you love than to be wealthy doing something you hate. Here’s someone who says it a whole lot better than me, by the way: I Can’t Get No (Job) Satisfaction

25-36 of #365LifeLessons – Music, Exploration, Apologies

25) They say business isn’t personal, it’s just business. But when it’s such a major part of someone’s life, it is indeed personal. Remember this both when you’re employer and employee, and act accordingly.

26) Learn to say you’re sorry but don’t be overly apologetic (you know those people who say “sorry” about everything they do… yuck.)

27) Explore before settling down. There’s always time to settle down.

28) Pack light and bring a credit card.

29) Learn to play the guitar. It can bring you solace when you’re alone, entertain a group of friends and warm up a campsite, a party or even a date.

30) Send her flowers for no reason at all.

31) Call your Mother weekly. 😉

32) Plan to learn a new skill every year. Even if you never again apply it.

33) Create something with your hands – a tree house, a go kart, a desk, a house… something that will always make you proud when you look at it.

34) Learn how to be alone.

35) Write it down. Visit it again in a few days, months, years… you’ll be amazed at your perspective.

36) Don’t keep up with the Joneses. It’s a boring game that no one ever wins.

What I’ve Learned, What I’m Learning – #365LifeLessons

10 of #365LifeLessons – Never Leave Home Without…

There are a few things one should always have in the car. A bottle of water. A snack (nuts are always good – protein, long lasting, easy). Emergency kit. Leatherman. Lip balm. Breath mint or gum. Hand sanitizer. Mobile phone (with charger and camera). Credit Card. License. Extra coat. A jack and spare tire. And a folding chair. Yes, a chair – you never know when you might get stuck and have to wait somewhere, or land somewhere unexpected that you just want to get out and stare at for a while (like a beach, a mountain, a concert).

What would you add?

What I’ve Learned, What I’m Learning – #365LifeLessons

9 of #365LifeLessons – Everyone Doesn’t Win

Despite what school is teaching you by giving everyone a trophy, a ribbon or an award, life doesn’t work like that. You don’t get something you haven’t earned. There is only one first place. And sometimes, not winning is just what we need.  It isn’t always about winning, but rather about the journey and the lessons we take from the experience. And if you want to win, you’re going to have to work hard to do so.

What I’ve Learned, What I’m Learning – #365LifeLessons