10 characteristics that reflect real love

By no means do I claim to be an expert at relationships and love, but my experiences in life – especially in the last few years – have definitely taught me to recognize real love vs. self love (ego). I’ve read about it, talked a lot about it (gotta love therapy) and luckily, experienced both sides. Isn’t that the only way to really learn and appreciate something anyway?

So, in honor of this silly Hallmark holiday we call Valentine’s Day, here’s what I’ve come to recognize as real, selfless love from – or for – another human being. (Or dog… because dogs seem like they got this down long ago…) 

  1. Selfless – even when there’s a desire to be selfishWE
  2. Thoughtful – even when one is “too busy”
  3. Giving – in spirit and time (much more valuable than money or gifts)
  4. Supportive – not jealous or envious
  5. Understanding – not angry, even when passionately arguing
  6. Forgiving – no one is perfect
  7. Attentive –  truly knowing your partner because of it
  8. Reflective – always thinking about how to make the relationship better
  9. Respectful – in voice and actions, under any circumstance
  10. Faithful – always. If you are truly in love, this isn’t difficult

1 thought on “10 characteristics that reflect real love

  1. Stephen Dill

    Christine, have you read “5 Love Languages”? Check out http://www.5lovelanguages.com and take the quiz to determine your profile. How can I not agree with all you have said? But my one caution is to understand that the way you express your love for your partner is in your language. And unless your partner uses the same language you run the risk that it is not registering.

    It seems a simple concept, but over the many years since I first read the book and saw how I was ignoring my wife and best friend’s love language—and corrected that—we have grown so much closer.

    Thanks for the reminder to take the profile again – and so glad to hear what side of that ego line you are seeing these days!


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